Christians, how do you feel knowing that you have loved ones burning in hell?

I dont want to hear "well, people who are in hell have made a choice to go there." I am sorry but I cannot choose to go to hell if I dont believe in it and just because you believe in hell does not mean that it actually exists. If hell was a reality it would make no difference whether you believe in it or not but you cannot prove that there is an ounce of truth to anything that has been written in your bronzeage storybook. Lets say your children died without accepting Jesus. How does it feel knowing that they are burning in hell? Why do you lie to yourselves and pretend they are in heaven? Isn't lying a sin? Well, the priest who pray over the souls of those who died without Jesus are burning in hell are actually lying aren't they for they know these people are burning in hell. Why do christians comfort eachother with lies?